Men

God spoke: “Let us make human beings in our image, make them reflecting our nature.” Genesis 1:26

So as I near our seventh anniversary, God must be preparing me for the seven year itch. I have heard that it seems to be the time when many married couples have trouble or divorce each other. So, I have actually already heard a few messages similar to our motivational…in our sermons lately as well as in my Sunday night small group. God seems to be reminding me of the worth of men, especially my husband. And I must admit that it is info I needed to hear and that I need to have drilled into my brain. Like many of you have realized, we are in a society where the men don’t always wear the pants.

But God commanded that they wear them. Submission is such a dirty word these days, but yall, it is Biblical. God created man first to be the leader of the vegetation, the animals, and his wife. We were made as helpers. In my recent studies I have found 3 reasons why I believe I have not been submitting to my husband. First, our society has raised some very independent women. Many of us were living on our own quite successfully before we even met our husbands. Some of us have jobs and may make more than our husbands. This is not an excuse. Your husband deserves your respect, and he should be the final word. Unless he is making decisions that go against God’s will, you need to try really hard to back him up.

Second, many men are not what men used to be. Some have been okay with the woman taking over. Some have been lazy in their home life, their work life, and their spiritual life. They let their wife teach the children about Jesus instead of taking an active role in preparing them for salvation. They may not measure up to what you think deserves your respect. But God didn’t say “submit to your husbands if they deserve it.” He just said do it. And as I am learning in my study, if you give respect they will notice and the cycle will turn in a positive direction of loving words and actions. My third pathetic excuse it that I am sinful. I like having the last word. I want to be right all the time. I want to decide who, when, where, and what. But I am setting a poor example for Parker. So, my new mantra is from 1 Timothy 2:11-15. It basically tells me to be quiet and listen so I can learn. I don’t have authority over a man. Eve sinned and threw all women under the bus. Pretty crude, huh? But it also says we will be saved through childbearing. That’s another whole blog, but something to think about.

So, I know this is deep stuff and some of you may be thinking I am crazy and need to go hitch a ride on a wagon with my hoop skirt. But I am being taught this lesson over and over again lately, so I thought I would pass it along to you. I am really trying to respect my husband more. I actually listen to his ideas and take a back seat sometimes…though I have a long way to go. I would love to hear some comments on this since I know it has got you thinking!